20 Lessons Learned in 20 Years

As I mark my 20th birthday, I'm reminded of the numerous lessons that have shaped me into the person I am now, and I'm eager to share them with you.

• Denial is delay: When you fail to accept reality, you slow down your moving-on process.

• Clean space, clean mind: Your environment affects your thought process.

• Patience has a reward: Good things come to those who wait.

• Celebrate the wins: Acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small.

• All my feelings matter: Validate your emotions.

• Trust is not a ‘what’ but a ‘who’, and that is Jesus: He is the way, the truth, and the life.

• A three-fold chord is not easily broken: A relationship with Jesus in the middle stands the test of time.

• Jesus died for my past, present, and future: A sacrifice all-encompassing.

• Discipline > Motivation: Consistency is key.

• Just do it: Take action despite fear and uncertainty.

• Worrying is a waste of time: Focus on what you can control.

• You deserve what you accept: Set boundaries and prioritize self-love.

• Boundaries don't limit healthy relationships: If a relationship dies because of boundaries, it was never meant to be.

• People treat you how you treat yourself: Be kind to yourself.

• Body dysmorphia is an idea: Don't let societal standards define your worth.

• Sisterhood is beautiful: Nurture meaningful relationships.

• Financial independence comes with income.

• No age is too early to start working on who you want to be. You don't need the validation of men or society.

• More grace, less judgment. Be kind to people.

• Uwa bu ofu mbia; live your best life

Reflecting on these lessons, I am thankful for my acquired growth and wisdom. I am eager to discover what the future brings and what new lessons I will learn along the journey.

Thank you for reading! Which of these lessons resonates with you the most?