Good Girl Dey Pay🧏🏽‍♀️🤏🏽

“Rules are made to broken”

I’d say that cause I was tired of rules. Tired of being told to do this or not do that.

Not only me. Almost everyone online now.

So now we’re woke.

YOLO-ing.

Living like consequences are a myth and accountability is oppression.

Maybe we do live once- I don’t have the full answer myself.

But I do know this: the life we live should be worth it.

And while we like to say, “It’s my life,” I think we forget something important- other people have invested in it. Time. Sacrifice. Prayer. Resources. Love. Whether we acknowledge it or not, we are not self-made. Consideration for that investment is another form of love, and honestly, it’s one I don’t see celebrated enough anymore.

Let me be honest 😂- there is mad reward in having values.

There is pay in discipline.

There is quiet profit in boundaries, moral standards, and self-respect.

I’m still learning this for myself, but I can say it with my full chest now: good girl dey pay.

Not always immediately.

Not always loudly.

But it pays.

The problem with “woke culture” isn’t awareness. Awareness is good. We shouldn’t be oblivious or naive. But somewhere along the line, being “woke” became an excuse to be reckless. To be rude. To be uncouth. To discard empathy, humility, and responsibility in the name of freedom.

That’s where I draw the line.

Freedom without values is just chaos with better branding.

And expression without consideration is not boldness- it’s carelessness.

Having boundaries doesn’t make you boring.

Having standards doesn’t make you proud.

Choosing restraint doesn’t mean you’re behind.

Sometimes it means you’re protected.

I’ve seen how quickly trends fade, how loud confidence can hide emptiness, and how “living your truth” without wisdom can cost you peace, reputation, and direction. Meanwhile, the people who move quietly with values- who think before they act, who honor themselves and others, are building lives that last.

So no, I don’t hate joy.

I don’t hate freedom.

I don’t hate living fully.

I just believe that living fully should also mean living thoughtfully.

And if that makes me “old school” or “not woke enough,” I’m okay with that, mehn. Because at the end of the day, I’ve learned something simple and true:

Good girl dey pay.

And the reward is deeper than jaiye—it’s peace